Sins of the Tongue

SINS OF THE TONGUE

The topic is very pertinent to women as men are mostly known to be using their hands frequently and women are known to be using their tongues frequently. All of us know that if women sit together then they can discuss anything and everything around them!

The importance of what we say can be judged from this Quranic verse:
“Man does not utter any word except that with him is an observer prepared to record (50:18)”

One of the very famous things said by our elders was that if we had to buy paper for karaman kateebeen (angels who record our deeds), then we would possibly stop talking altogether. Our elders used to be so careful about everything they said that they would write a diary at night regarding whatever they uttered during the day so if, by mistake, they realized that they had broken anyone’s heart or lied, then they would immediately repent to Allah SWT.

Remember the old Urdu saying before speaking ” Pehley tolo, phir bolo” [ First weigh, then say ] But our sorry state is that we don’t even think after we have spoken. Today, In fact, we  do such sins so easily which as if a fly comes and sit on our noses and then we easily shake our head away. For our elders, to sin was as if to have a mountain fall on you.

Imagine the importance of words from the fact that when a person says La illaha illalah Muhammadur Rasool Allah, he becomes a muslim. Although only Allah knows what truly resides in the heart, yet for the world he or she is a Muslim. And if he or she has truly accepted tauheed from the bottom of his heart, by declaring the Kalimah, his state will be similar to that of a new born baby, as if he has never sinned.

Also realize the importance of what we utter through Nikah. By declaring ” I accept” three times through the tongue, a person who is supposed to be a Na-mehram for you becomes a mehram and you can spend your entire life with him or her. Similarly, if you utter the three statements of Divorce, that is enough to make a your wife Na-mehram for you, even if the words are uttered in sheer anger. What we say is so important to Allah that it is like words written on stone and it cannot be undone. What’s said is said.

There are various Ahadith of Prophet S.A.W regarding protecting the tongue:

One of the miracles was that Prophet S.A.W went for Mairaj. He saw heaven and hell and in the hell, he saw woman being burnt on account of misuse of tongue because of being ungrateful to their husband! The basic implication is the same that woman are not heedful of the use of their tongue.

Another hadith of Prophet S.A.W is that “one who remains silent attains salvation”

On another instance, he said “Hold your tongue, make your houses spacious and repent for your sins”

And “Silence is a rule and few people can observe it”

A Shaykh once said “What can one learn from my words when he or she doesn’t learn from my silence”

Hazrat Abu Bakr used to hold his tongue because he considered it as the organ that can take him to Jahannum. Look, how worried he used to be about the use of his tongue even though he was Ashrah Mubashirah (one of the ten blessed companions)

It is often the case that we make an intention in our hearts that when we will meet someone we will not utter any word that may displease him or her, or will not do backbiting or gossiping behind his or her back. But then always end up having “slips of the tongue” And then we wonder why. The answer is very simple: The heart is like a pot and the tongue is like a spoon. So, how can something sweet come out of the spoon if there is something bitter in the pot? If our hearts are impure, then automatically what we say will also be impure. Therefore, it is important that we get rid of negative feelings in the first place about anyone that we have and only then will it be easier for us to control our tongues.

Another thing to point out is that when a person wakes up in the morning, all the organs rebuke the tongue and say “don’t punish us because of your misuse”

We must realize through the misuse of the tongue that we can actually end up doing Gunaah-e-Kabira, for example lying.  A hadith of Prophet S.A.W tells us regarding lying that “When a servant (of Allah) tells a lie, (his) Angel goes away from him to the distance of a mile, because of the internal commotions of what it brings” We ask Allah why aren’t our duas accepted? How can it be accepted when we cause the angels to go away from us on account of our own actions? due to our own lying? One of the remedies for getting rid of lying is to punish yourself whenever you utter such a statement. For example, you can make a niyat “everytime I lie, I will offer 20 Rakaat nafal” It is guaranteed that you will think a thousand times next time before you say an untrue statement.

Another very common sin is that of backbiting or gheebat. Gheebat is anything uttered behind a person’s back that if we were to know about it, he would not like it. There is a verse in the Quran which says that backbiting is like eating the meat of your dead brother. In the time of Prophet S.A.W, it so happened that 2 women got unconscious in the state of fast. It was recommended that their fast be broken. But Prophet S.A.W said that their fast was already broken. He, through a miracle given by Allah, went and took out pieces of dead meat from their teeth. There is a verse in the Quran which says that backbiting is like eating the meat of your dead brother. The remedy for this sin is not to talk about people in the first place. It will be only then that we realize that 75 % of our talks are based on people. Of the 25% that is left will be the useful and the beneficial talk. And we should also learn not to express our cry out our problems in front of everyone except for Allah and then not only will we be getting rid of backbiting but also Allah will be sufficient to handle all our worries

(There are sins like slandering or expressing anger  etc which are extremely relevant but unfortunately could not be discussed due to shortage of time).

In conclusion, remember that all the people have been divided into these three categories:

1. Looters of war booty
2. Talkers of useless things
3. Those who are dafe

By Looters of war booty, those people are implied who remember Allah SWT abundantly; by talkers of useless things; those people are implied who discuss random things for killing time for example these days, the know-hows of lawn exhibition etc; And by  those who are safe, people who remain silent are implied.

Taken from: HERE

SPEAKER  PROFILE:

Alimah Sobia Qasim has completed her BSc.Honors in Economics from the Lahore University of Management Sciences and has spent the past several years acquiring classical islamic knowledge. While still a student of sacred knowledge, she taught Tafsir, Hadith and Arabic Grammar to women in her community. She has also worked for the Social Sciences Department at LUMS and has also taught Islamic Studies to Ordinary Level students. She has given several talks to the youth of different universities and colleges on the subject of Drawing Closer to Allah (swt).
Her non-political and non-sectarian spiritual lectures and seminars have attracted several students.

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